You just shot your relationship with that family to hell. You realize that y'all will never be friends now. In my opinion, she was only crying because you brought their family dirt back to her door step. Honestly if my 17 year old did something like that, I'd rather not know. What can I do with the information? Put her in a Chasity belt? At that age, you have missed the opportunity to shape and mold a child on such matters. As someone said earlier, we all did the same thing when we were that age, luckily we did not get caught. You felt up people in cars, behind buildings, and even had sex in some cases. This is all part of growing up, testing the waters, and living and learning. I feel you put yourself in a situation you had no business. I also feel the excuse you used to get your wife involved was very thin at best. I'm a strong advocate of getting involved, but I know how to pick the battles. You manipulated her to flex your will and also to protect yourself in her eyes if the stuff backfired. Now when the neighbors treat y'all like a leaper she right there with you and you won't feel alone. It was very wrong of you to drag her into this when you knew what her feeling were. Again you manipulated her to get your way. Shame on you Cholly. You owe her an apology. If you decided to do this, you should have gone alone. But no, you have now alienated you wife from that family as well. Things will never be the same. The only thing you succeeded in doing was embarrassing that lady.