[DRUMMA1]

I ask this question because I recently met a young lady here at JSU.  She sat down at my table for lunch and struck up a conversation.  She and I talked about a lot of different topics, including dating which I made it very clear that I don't want to be in a relationship right now, and enjoyed each other's company.  She randomly tells me about how she used to be a hoe, how she contracted an STD a few years ago from her ex, and other personal crap that I did not wish to hear.  As she was talking, I looked into her eyes and there was something "off" about her that did not sit right in my gut.  Like, for real for real.  Anyway, ever since then, she constantly asks me what do I think of her, is she the type of woman I'd normally be interested in, and is extremely nosey.  

1.  What are your red flags?

2.  Which red flags would signal that someone just might be crazy?

These questions are in reference to potential friends or potential relationships.

[Ivan]

Bruh, trust me.........................................I'm speaking from experience..................

You do not want to go down this road. All those red flags are exactly that...............................red flags. Even if she's the nicest person in the world, the fact that she's telling you all this stuff so early on, lets you know that there's something amiss with her. I'm not against being casual friends with her, but I'd treat her with a "long handled spoon". I wish I'd heeded this same advice when I was faced with a similar situation earlier.......

[Capler]

Red Flag number one:

If Black Cats on Onnidan praise a new movie, it's likely a really, really bad one, and I should steer clear.

Number Two:

If OW chimes in on one of your posts, he really, really likes you as an individual.

[j1908]

When someone tells you something about them the first time, believe them. I , don't think an individual is crazy, it's the act or acts which led to the abnormal behavior. You have to remember when you are meeting someone for the first time you 're meeting their representative. In this case Drumma, she has decided to let you know up front before you hear it from someone else, this is " me". But I would take Ivan's advice and treat her with a long handled spoon.

[scstatealum]

I ask this question because I recently met a young lady here at JSU.  She sat down at my table for lunch and struck up a conversation.  She and I talked about a lot of different topics, including dating which I made it very clear that I don't want to be in a relationship right now, and enjoyed each other's company.  She randomly tells me about how she used to be a hoe, how she contracted an STD a few years ago from her ex, and other personal crap that I did not wish to hear.  As she was talking, I looked into her eyes and there was something "off" about her that did not sit right in my gut.  Like, for real for real.  Anyway, ever since then, she constantly asks me what do I think of her, is she the type of woman I'd normally be interested in, and is extremely nosey.  

1.  What are your red flags?

2.  Which red flags would signal that someone just might be crazy?

These questions are in reference to potential friends or potential relationships.

most people underexaggerate. if thats a word.  if she says she was out there in the past, she was a hoe.  if she SAYS she was a hoe, the girl might be superhead.

anyway, to answer the question, my red flags are

1. giving up the guts too fast.  I got game, but not like that.  Deperate women give it up quick. and desperate women tend to be those that will act crazy

2.  won't talk about her last boyfriend, specifically how they broke up.  

3. all her friends dont have a man. or worse, all her friends have a man EXCEPT her.

4. she dont have no friends.

5.  she is quick to tell you that she ISN'T crazy.  then you know she crazy.

if you fit any one of those criteria she might be crazy. fit more than one, haul a--. or you'll be like me and have to get a restraining order on a chick.....

[scstatealum]

at least the girl told you straight up she kinda crazy though...

I'll never forget the words of a great philosopher, who happens to be my uncle (he only drops science when he drunk)

"son, be careful.  some women are crazy. the dumb ones are easy. you can see them coming with they crazy a--. but the scariest ones are the smart crazy ones.  smart crazy women know that men dont like crazy women. so they act like they aint crazy. until you try to leave and they crazy a-- acts up.  I wish crazy women had a big C on they forehead like the scarlet letter. so at least we would see them coming"
I was about 15 when he told me and my other cousins that at a reunion.  back then it seemed a little unimportant, and when he told me I smiled...imagine jewels being handed to an innocent child.

and he was right.  but it took me gettting a crazy one and getting a restraining order to appreciate it....with my dumb a--

[DRUMMA1]

Ivan, J1908, and SCStateAlum, I appreciate that.  I need that validation because I did not want to seem like I was over-reacting.  In the dislike thread, I posted that I dislike long, plastic fingernails.  It just so happened that the next day she is sporting some long, red, plastic fingernails.  She told me (on everything that I love) that she wears them because she likes the way it looks when she's giving a dude some head.    I'm no wuss but I do care about the company that I keep and I don't want my name to be associated with her's or anyone who will bring negative attention my way.  In the back of my mind I feel like if I spend ANY amount of time with her she will misinterpret it for something that its not; probably even tell people we go together.  

Sidenote:  J1908, I shared this with my good friend and he said, in a joking manner, "Well, you are what you attract."  What do you think about that old saying?

[scstatealum]

Ivan, J1908, and SCStateAlum, I appreciate that.  I need that validation because I did not want to seem like I was over-reacting.  In the dislike thread, I posted that I dislike long, plastic fingernails.  It just so happened that the next day she is sporting some long, red, plastic fingernails.  She told me (on everything that I love) that she wears them because she likes the way it looks when she's giving a dude some head.    I'm no wuss but I do care about the company that I keep and I don't want my name to be associated with her's or anyone who will bring negative attention my way.  In the back of my mind I feel like if I spend ANY amount of time with her she will misinterpret it for something that its not; probably even tell people we go together.  

Sidenote:  J1908, I shared this with my good friend and he said, in a joking manner, "Well, you are what you attract."  What do you think about that old saying?

run, do not walk away when you see this girl coming.  its not even the fact that she likes that, but the fact that she told you in the first conversation.  c
 

[scstatealum]

I disagree with you are what you attract.  it is somewhat true, but if you are a good dude or chick, you will not only attact good dudes/chicks, but also bad folk that wants a good dude/chick

on the other hand, if you are bad folk, you usually attract the same...

[soflorattler]

 

[DRUMMA1]

Ivan, J1908, and SCStateAlum, I appreciate that.  I need that validation because I did not want to seem like I was over-reacting.  In the dislike thread, I posted that I dislike long, plastic fingernails.  It just so happened that the next day she is sporting some long, red, plastic fingernails.  She told me (on everything that I love) that she wears them because she likes the way it looks when she's giving a dude some head.    I'm no wuss but I do care about the company that I keep and I don't want my name to be associated with her's or anyone who will bring negative attention my way.  In the back of my mind I feel like if I spend ANY amount of time with her she will misinterpret it for something that its not; probably even tell people we go together.  

Sidenote:  J1908, I shared this with my good friend and he said, in a joking manner, "Well, you are what you attract."  What do you think about that old saying?

run, do not walk away when you see this girl coming.  its not even the fact that she likes that, but the fact that she told you in the first conversation.  c
 

Most definately.  One thing that I have noticed is that everytime I attempt to build my relationship with the Lord, something or someone bad always comes my way.  It could the gasket blowing up in my engine or some new friend who turns out to be a user.  Never fails, man.  

[‘87 Alum]

look here playa....trust your gut instincts....dont visit the gap, work out at the y or anything else with her....if she continues to ask what you think of her, tell her that you're not interested in her and keep it at that....instead of looking for red flags, playa, you better get you a big ole else you'll be humming Kool Moe Dee's epic hit, 3 days later....

[GALFAMU]

I disagree with you are what you attract.  it is somewhat true, but if you are a good dude or chick, you will not only attact good dudes/chicks, but also bad folk that wants a good dude/chick

on the other hand, if you are bad folk, you usually attract the same...

Ditto!

[soflorattler]

Someone once told me- If two or more people that you don't know tell you the same thing about something to avoid, it may just be worth a look at taking their advice...

[j1908]

J1908, I shared this with my good friend and he said, in a joking manner, "Well, you are what you attract."  What do you think about that old saying?

You have to look at it being a concept or a belief? If you have conceputilize you attract unseedy individuals then you do. I believe in the law of attraction, but not the concept or belief you are who you attract.