So I'm assuming you've never seen these regular ole Black American women with beautiful hair:
FYI plenty of Black American 4c hair women have super long hair. The reason most women tend not to actually wear ultra long hair is time and cost. Product to keep it groomed is expensive and long hair takes a lot of time. How do I know? I have grown my hair down to my mid back before. Currently it's shoulder length because I can maintain that easier.
Men like what looks jazzy. Just as many men approached me with my buzzed red mohawk (if not more) as they have with my big, long afro. Plenty of African women have beautiful hair. And plenty of women from The Diaspora not on the continent have gorgeous hair as well that is equally long.