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General Discussion Forum / Re: What Are Your Red Flags?

« on: December 09, 2010, 03:05:34 PM »

at least the girl told you straight up she kinda crazy though...

I'll never forget the words of a great philosopher, who happens to be my uncle (he only drops science when he drunk)

"son, be careful.  some women are crazy. the dumb ones are easy. you can see them coming with they crazy a--. but the scariest ones are the smart crazy ones.  smart crazy women know that men dont like crazy women. so they act like they aint crazy. until you try to leave and they crazy a-- acts up.  I wish crazy women had a big C on they forehead like the scarlet letter. so at least we would see them coming"
I was about 15 when he told me and my other cousins that at a reunion.  back then it seemed a little unimportant, and when he told me I smiled...imagine jewels being handed to an innocent child.

and he was right.  but it took me gettting a crazy one and getting a restraining order to appreciate it....with my dumb a--

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General Discussion Forum / Re: What Are Your Red Flags?

« on: December 09, 2010, 02:56:25 PM »

I ask this question because I recently met a young lady here at JSU.  She sat down at my table for lunch and struck up a conversation.  She and I talked about a lot of different topics, including dating which I made it very clear that I don't want to be in a relationship right now, and enjoyed each other's company.  She randomly tells me about how she used to be a hoe, how she contracted an STD a few years ago from her ex, and other personal crap that I did not wish to hear.  As she was talking, I looked into her eyes and there was something "off" about her that did not sit right in my gut.  Like, for real for real.  Anyway, ever since then, she constantly asks me what do I think of her, is she the type of woman I'd normally be interested in, and is extremely nosey.  

1.  What are your red flags?

2.  Which red flags would signal that someone just might be crazy?

These questions are in reference to potential friends or potential relationships.

most people underexaggerate. if thats a word.  if she says she was out there in the past, she was a hoe.  if she SAYS she was a hoe, the girl might be superhead.

anyway, to answer the question, my red flags are

1. giving up the guts too fast.  I got game, but not like that.  Deperate women give it up quick. and desperate women tend to be those that will act crazy

2.  won't talk about her last boyfriend, specifically how they broke up.  

3. all her friends dont have a man. or worse, all her friends have a man EXCEPT her.

4. she dont have no friends.

5.  she is quick to tell you that she ISN'T crazy.  then you know she crazy.

if you fit any one of those criteria she might be crazy. fit more than one, haul a--. or you'll be like me and have to get a restraining order on a chick.....

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General Discussion Forum / Re: Southern University Chancellor Resigns

« on: December 01, 2010, 12:58:24 PM »

scsa,

Does the majority of the money given by alumni to SCSU come from the older or younger alumni? 

What I will say to you is keep on living - you too will become an older alum one day and then we'll see what you have to say and how resistant to change you are. As with anything else, he who pays the bills determines how and who gets to play...

the larger percentage of our alumni giving comes from those alumni who are 35-55.

and I am sure as i get older, I will be more resistant to change than I am now.  but I Will be open to it. more open than some I see now.

do not take my comments as an attack on old people.  I'm just stating what I see, and what I suspect is the same at other schools.

bottom line is this, since the thread is about southern.  Lomotey quit, or was asked to resign.  why?  I have not seen, or heard from my family who went there, any evidence that the man was doing a bad job.  maybe he was a monster.  I dont know...but I havent seen that evidence.  what I have seen is that there is a base of alumni at southern who did not like some of the changes he proposed. for example, closing the school of achitecture.  I dont know all the details, but I do know the school was hemmoraging money.  was closing the school the best answer? again, I dont know.  but the mere fact that he said MAYBE that was the answer had people hating him.  I am an engineer by trade.  I am trained to look at all the options for the best solution, even if the options are not what I personally want. I think many of our alumni dont do that.

I want the law school back at SCSU..more than anyone.  but I know that the money is not there, and if we did it now, then it would hurt the rest of the school finances.  So I am good with not doing it now.  But there are some of our alumni who dont care about the bigger picture..they just want the law school back now.

I cant say how I know, but I am in position to see the internal finances of SCSU. statisitics on giving, and metrics on who gives how much by age group, location, etc.  and I can tell you, at least at SCSU, that our oldest alumni are not the group who give the most.  which I would suspect, because the older you get, the more limited your income gets most times. which is understandable. but even if they were giving the most, that does not excuse putting the wants of the money givers ahead of the needs or whats best for the institution.  That should always be the numbre 1 priority.

again....I'll be old one day..and I'll probably like things as they are.  but what I want more than what I want for myself is what is best for the school. and I am open enough to be okay with not getting what I personally want as long as the school thrives. 

I'm just saying many of our alumni dont feel that way.

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General Discussion Forum / Re: Southern University Chancellor Resigns

« on: December 01, 2010, 11:47:04 AM »

I didnt say most older people are backwards...I dont think that.

However I do think that many if not most older people get comfortable with things, and are more resistant to change than younger folk. I am clearly not saying lomotey was some visionary. but he was more progressive than most HBCU presidents.  and most older alumni dont welcome that...

I'll tell you about my own school...

SCSU has tailgate spots that are close to the stadium that many people would pay a huge premium for.  lots of money...

but those spots go to our athletics booster club, which basically raises no money. why? because that club is formed by and run by our older alumni who do not care about the money we lose by not selling those spots to the highest bidder...they just want to park close to the stadium for selfish reasons.  and again...they dont give much money!

When it was recommended that those spots go for sale our older alumni pitched a fit....

thats the kind of stuff I mean...you could argue the logic of selling the spots..but it dont matter...they want them...

its that kind of thinking that holds us back.....I am not trying to sterotype all old people...I am saying that the biggest battle most if not all HBCUs face is its older alumni base vs its younger alumni base.  change vs whats comfortable and familiar. and who wins that battle wil ldetermine how many HBCUs survive, and how many dont.

at morris brown, the older alumni and preachers won that battle...and the school lost.  I see it everyday at SCSU.  people who clearly dont need to be working at SCSU but dont get fired because their Uncle works there.  or they have some tie to Rep. Clyburn, so nobody says anything about the fact that they dont do anything.  its good for the person in the job, but cripples the school. 

I'm not saying young people have all the answers..I know I dont...but its about being open to change vs fighting it.  Not change for change sake, but smart change.  growth.  there are some folk who dont want ANY change, regardless of whether its smart or not.  many of those people are older...


I can go even further....my company has a huge population of people who will retire in 5-7 years.  there are things that can and should be done to ensure the survival and success of the company beyond that timeframe...but most of those things involve leaning the company out and making it more efficient, i.e. cutting some heads.  our union (mostly older folks) go crazy whenevr that comes us...because htey dont really care about the long term future of the company....they just want their job drilling their hole to be there for 5-7 more years ntil they retire, then company be damned...

its the same mentality at many if not all HBCUs. 

its less about age and more about aversion to change....and the fact is, older people are more reluctant to change than younger...not all.....but many if not most.....

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General Discussion Forum / Re: Southern University Chancellor Resigns

« on: December 01, 2010, 10:00:21 AM »

I got family who are FVSU alums, and inlaws who are SU alums....

people dont like change. especially older people.  when lomotey was at FVSU, he brought a lot of change to the ways HBCUS normally do things...and older alumni didnt like it, but most of the changes he made panned out positive...so though there was dissention, most of what he wanted to accomplish he got done....

Southerns older alumni are much stronger, and more locally based...and vocal...so when he came in trying to make changes, they bucked...some would argue that the changes were positive. Others didnt want any change regardless of whether or not it was positive.  When I spoke to some of my inlaws and family this weekend, most were happy he was leaving...but most couldnt really quantify why he should go. I heard a lot of "he didnt get along with the alumni"..my response was "so what...did he do a good job?"

this is what is gonna kill HBCUs if we dont change....quicker than state budget cuts.

older folks want things to stay how they are...even if the foundation is crumbling behind the scenes...

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Politics / Re: No African Americans will be in the US Senate next year

« on: November 03, 2010, 02:36:37 PM »

the honorable gentleman from South Carolina is right on all points..  Our problem is we don't vote consistently like whites and other ethnic groups does..    How about having platform address our issuses such as education, police brutaily, universial health care econmic empowerment zones, justice reform, enivromental racism and food safety...

we take a more proactive part in the political process .  we need to vote, but we need to do more than vote.  the platform is there.  political office. if we feel that the person in office is not improving those things you named, we need to vote them out AND put in someone who can.  which means some of us need to get off the sideline and RUN for office. 

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Politics / Re: No African Americans will be in the US Senate next year

« on: November 03, 2010, 02:08:41 PM »

As a matter a fact a third party by blacks in the south would be more powerful than the GOP or Demo's, if the people vote.

I love black people......let me state that clearly

however....

a 3rd party for black folk would not succeed.  we are only 12% of the population of this country. and unlike hispanics, that percentage isnt really growing.  and knowing that if we did that other races wouldnt vote for the candidates from that party, then right off the bat you know that at most, 12% of the country is voting for you.....

and then....

you know we dont vote.  that is the problem.  its not about what party....its about the fact that less than 35% of our voting eligible population votes.  

also....

even if blacks formed this party, black politicians wouldnt all join.  you think obama or any other black politician of influence is leaving their party for this party?  wont happen....so we would split the voters we do have....

why wouldnt they leave the party?

money......as a population we do not generate, or rather donate, the amount of money to sustain a national campaign of any candidate.  hell, we barely give back to our own colleges as a population.  you got people raising millions of dollars for house and senate seats...you think we giving someone the money needed to run a presidential campaign?

I'm not trying to be the wet blanket, but I dont like folks to have ideas without facts.

the bottom line is voting.  if we vote, and people can count on that vote, then our power increases. but lets be real.  most of the GOP knew that we would come out and vote for obama.  but they also knew that now that he is in, a lot of blacks would say "well we got a black president, so I dont need to vote anymore". republicans vote.  them old folks be on walkers and canes, but they get out and vote.  us on the othre hand, do not vote in masse.  People always wonder why the GOP does not cater to african american voters.  its because they dont have to.  we dont vote in enough numbers to matter to them.  they know that if we dont vote, they win.  and if we do vote, they lose.  but for the most part, we wont vote for them in either case.  so why waste the time/money/resources to try to convince you to vote for them, when they can even count on you voting at all.

these are the facts.  like em or not.  and this is why we dont need anothre party.  we need to get active in the parties that exist.  right now, as a political force, we are not.  we are just there for the ride.

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Sports Forum / Re: Has the MEAC benefited from playoffs?

« on: July 30, 2010, 10:50:10 AM »

our coaches think it does.  We have one of, if not the, best coaches in HBCU Football.  I think I'll go with his opinion.

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Politics / Re: What is the right political fit?

« on: May 04, 2010, 09:58:18 AM »

I agree with the above statement.  I vote for who I think is the best person for the job, and the person that best represnets the things that are important to me and my family. 

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General Discussion Forum / Re: why did slaves and free blacks fight for the confederate states of america

« on: June 30, 2009, 02:20:23 PM »

I did read it....and the reason why southern blacks fought for the confederacy is more likely due to either religion, fear or both.

they fought for the conferderacy because they were told that if they did, and won, that they would be freed....which of course, was a lie....but whatever...

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The Drum / Passing tourney today at SCSU

« on: June 23, 2007, 03:31:00 PM »

"Passing tourney today at SCSU


By THOMAS GRANT JR., T&D Senior Sports Writer
Saturday, June 23, 2007

High school football teams will take to the air today on the campus of South Carolina State University.

For the"

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The Drum / S.C. State U. Looking to hire a Senior AD

« on: July 07, 2006, 03:34:00 PM »

"http://www.scsu.edu/HRM/description.cfm?ID=490

SCSU Position Description
ASSOCIATE ACADEMIC PROGRAM DIRECTOR (SENIOR ASSOCIATE ATHLETICS DIRECTOR)
Open Date: July 7, 2006 Employment Status: Full-Time, Permanent Employee Position Nu"