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Title: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Capler on April 07, 2011, 11:34:50 AM
Most people think I'm very nice and easy going. I am. I'm fair and will not hurt or take advantage of anyone. But if a person tries to take advantage of that, I internalize it and will become very aggressive and have little mercy. This comes from being bullied as a child.

I hold folk to high standards and in general don't offer very much compassion once people steer off course.  My position is this; "you were told, now you must pay the price and find your own way back."

An example is kids dropping out of school, having babies, and not seeking job training. My position is this: "you made the choice now deal with it." Does this make me a mean uncaring person, hardly not? I feel  life is filled with folk who are trying and they are the ones that need my attention.

I don't feel society should be that concerned with folk who drink or drug themselves to death. If a person develops lung cancer after years of smoking, they should not expect society to foot the medical bills.

I'm sympathetic to obesity because that is a real, and in most cases a genetic problem many can't help.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Maroon and Gray on April 07, 2011, 11:48:34 AM
is this your way of introducing yourself to the newest board member?

Most of us remember this post from you already.   :nod:
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Capler on April 07, 2011, 12:20:44 PM
No, it is a part of self examination. You should always check and double check to see how you are evolving as an individual. You should not only think about it, but you should also say it out loud or write it down. I actually do it for you Cats. I want you to be more thoughtful and aware of yourselves.  I do it every day during my quiet time. I'm particularly curious about how my views differ from that of young people.  I try to adjust my way of thinking when needed so that I will not become a relic. Many older people are guilty of not being flexible enough. I sat around a table the other night listening to horror stories about older folk 'cutting up badly' because they refused to take other views into consideration. In dealing with trying to organize alumni, I'm very aware of this situation.  
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Ivan on April 07, 2011, 12:38:35 PM
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I'm sympathetic to obesity because that is a real, and in most cases a genetic problem many can't help.

No....................actually it isn't.
Most people who are obese, are so because of behavior not genetics. Genetics may play a part but there is a very small percentage of people who are obese, and regardless of their behavior, cannot change their body. It's as much a choice as someone who smokes, or drinks. Behavioral science tells us that. It's just not socially as acceptable to stigmatize or harass obese people, as it is someone who smokes or is an alcoholic.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Brother Tony on April 07, 2011, 01:30:22 PM
 :lol:@ Capler  :nod: 
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Capler on April 07, 2011, 02:41:22 PM
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I'm sympathetic to obesity because that is a real, and in most cases a genetic problem many can't help.

No....................actually it isn't.
Most people who are obese, are so because of behavior not genetics. Genetics may play a part but there is a very small percentage of people who are obese, and regardless of their behavior, cannot change their body. It's as much a choice as someone who smokes, or drinks. Behavioral science tells us that. It's just not socially as acceptable to stigmatize or harass obese people, as it is someone who smokes or is an alcoholic.

That's the old way of thinking. Scientist are beginning to think that genetics plays a larger role in obesity and they are looking for specific genes that control it.  I understand the behavior angle,  -if you don't put the calories in, the body cannot store it as fat. The body normally uses calories as energy and stores or excretes what it does not need.  But in some cases much of what goes in gets stored instead of being used. And in the case of rail thin people, gets used  instead of being stored.  Once scientist unlock the key to this mystery,   effective weight management drugs can be developed. Right now most drugs and treatments focus on curving appetite or in the case of surgery reducing the amount that goes in.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: MrSoul on April 07, 2011, 04:23:19 PM
Ivan, Capler, I'd say its mostly a little bit of both.  Its interesting when you look at some people who have generations of obesity. Obviously, eating habits play a definite part in it, as the kids will eat what the adults eat and how much the adults eat.  The genetics also determine how that weight is gained and how it is distributed.  I was watching some show the other weekend about this dude meeting his dad for the first time. The guy was in his late 30s or early 40s and I'll be damned if he was not made up just like his dad and both were overweight - they were almost like twins except one older and one younger. Never been around each other. So its kind of obvious to me we are looking at 2 things that contribute to it.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Capler on April 07, 2011, 04:41:47 PM
I too have seen too many people with "fat genes". They had a fat parent, were born fat, and lived that way. The human body is a funny thing. There is a weight it will always gravitate to, regardless what you do. Over the years, I figured out what that weight is for me. Growing up I gained until I got to that weight. I stayed there in my prime and went past it as I aged. Once I got the gain under control and started losing, exercise and diet kept me at the point my body wanted to be.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: GALFAMU on April 07, 2011, 04:42:46 PM
No, it is apart of self examination. You should always check and double check to see how you are evolving as an individuals. You should not only think about it, but you should also say it out loud or write it down.  

I agree. It helps to be honest about if or how you are changing.

And it helps if you are honest about the circumstances that made you evolve or change.


I know I had to look at myself honestly after a couple of my friends, true friends told me I had changed and they noticed that I was, as one put it "edgy," and "no longer  the nice suburban girl."

They were right, but they were  witnesses to what one of them calls the change from "Kimberly" and to KIMBERLY!

It is kinda funny, watching and listening to my older friends describing to my newer acquaintences of  how I used to be.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Pmist on April 07, 2011, 10:16:33 PM
Ok,  I think we have been thread-hijacked yet once again and diverted down the obesity road. :lol:  ::)  I will try to bring us back on topic; let's start here... Obesity is a medical epidemic in this country and it is complex in nature ranging from the person eating the food right on up to the people that are making it, to the chemicals in the food, and to the money the consumer has to by "better" food.  To think simply telling a person not to eat it is going to solve the issue is ineffective at best in my opinion.  We are going to either get real about this subject and put our heads together and solve what is leading this person to this form of addiction or the merry-go-round will continue.

Now bringing this back to the subject of the thread (or at least trying to :lol: ), I would have to say the thing that most people don't know about me would be my extreme loyalty to a person and/or the underdog.  This does not mean I will have nothing but nice things to say about that person if they are half stepping, but rather I will go to the end with them supporting them and loving them. I will often treat them like they are my family and just like family I become extremely protective of them. Messing with the one I am protecting usually bring out my mean or cruel streak; and yes I do indeed have one.  :nod:  This has gotten me burned a couple of times when these people have betrayed my trust a couple of times but I can't handle it any other way.  :shrug:
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Capler on April 07, 2011, 10:47:38 PM
I love the underdog too. I love underdog does well movies too. I really hate when people do bad things to people and think it is funny. Tonight on the 6:00pm  news they told the story of a man who used the Wal Mart bathroom and someone had put super glue on the seat. They could not even remove it and had to take him out of the store with it stuck on. The poor guy did not deserve that. Stuff like this makes me so angry. The pranksters deserve to be placed in front of a firing squad for doing that o him. I'm sorry but there are somethings I can't forgive.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: QueHBCUFan on April 07, 2011, 11:42:35 PM
I love the underdog too. I love underdog does well movies too. I really hate when people do bad things to people and think it is funny. Tonight on the 6:00pm  news they told the story of a man who used the Wal Mart bathroom and someone had put super glue on the seat. They could not even remove it and had to take him out of the store with it stuck on. The poor guy did not deserve that. Stuff like this makes me so angry. The pranksters deserve to be placed in front of a firing squad for doing that o him. I'm sorry but there are somethings I can't forgive.

First of all, the guy shouldn't have used a public restroom before cleaning and covering the toilet seat.  If he had done so this probably wouldn't have happened because he would've discovered the glue.  I agree he didn't deserve this punishment, but next time I bet he'll be a little more precautious.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: GALFAMU on April 07, 2011, 11:48:43 PM
I think what most people don't know about me is that I can smoothly someone off and leave the person wondering where he/she left his/her brain.



Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: QueHBCUFan on April 08, 2011, 12:12:13 AM
What most folks don't know about me is that I have a keen interest in empowering our youth to be change agents in their home, school, and community environments.  My pa** ion runs deep, which isn't seen in today's educational setting, so my goal is to "reach one teach one" with every opportunity I have.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Valley Girl on April 08, 2011, 12:15:06 AM
I guess one thing about me is that I detest conflict and avoid it as much as possible, because if I'm forced to confront you it won't be pretty....I've grown a lot, but my temper is legendary...slow to burn but when it ignites somebody better move out of the way.

When I am focused on an assigned task I tune everything else out. I am only concentrating on that one task...you can ask me a question, but I probably won't answer you because I am not paying attention to you.

Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Pmist on April 08, 2011, 05:04:19 AM
I guess one thing about me is that I detest conflict and avoid it as much as possible, because if I'm forced to confront you it won't be pretty....I've grown a lot, but my temper is legendary...slow to burn but when it ignites somebody better move out of the way.

And this is why we get along so well.  ;D I am the exact same way!  :nod: 


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  My pa** ion runs deep,.....

And this is why we bump heads, yet understand each other. :nod:  Two passionate people. :lol:  This usually means we wont budge from our positions when we dig in. Got that from both my mother and my father. DOUBLE DOSE! :LOL:  I can respect and value that! :nod:  :lol:
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Maroon and Gray on April 08, 2011, 08:50:16 AM
The Walmart bathroom story is an April Fool's joke.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Brother Tony on April 08, 2011, 09:17:37 AM
SOMETHING MOST FOLK DON'T KNOW ABOUT ME?
I don't know, ask somebody else about me and see what they say.  :shrug:
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Ivan on April 08, 2011, 12:18:49 PM
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That's the old way of thinking. Scientist are beginning to think that genetics plays a larger role in obesity and they are looking for specific genes that control it. I understand the behavior angle,  -if you don't put the calories in, the body cannot store it as fat. The body normally uses calories as energy and stores or excretes what it does not need.  But in some cases much of what goes in gets stored instead of being used. And in the case of rail thin people, gets used  instead of being stored.  Once scientist unlock the key to this mystery,   effective weight management drugs can be developed.

No, actually it isn't the "old way of thinking".
You see, the perspective that you're promoting above^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

.......is assuming that the human body was made to be sedentary.
It isn't.

Sure, there is a certain "set point" that your body wants to gravitate to. But that set point is assuming that the individual is sedentary. Again, scientist can try to come up with drugs to solve all of our problems, but that doesn't mean that they are necessary.....................and there will ALWAYS be side effects to any drugs used to treat anything.

Anytime you let anything set up without being used (i.e. a car, a bicycle, a house, a human body) it will begin a precipitous decline in function and integrity. If you sit up in your house, do no physical activity, and take in more calories than you need you will indeed become overweight and possibly obese. Again, there may be a genetic predisposition to having a low metabolism and storing fat, but those who are obese because of a genetic  factor, are a very small percentage of the population. If that weren't the case, the rates of obesity today would be the same as they were 20 years ago, or even 40 years ago. A genetic mutation would take much longer than one generation, to cause an epidemic within a population. So, what that tells us is that more than likely the biggest factor is lifestyle (which includes diet, physical activity, etc). Check this for further reading.............

http://www.elements4health.com/physical-activity-can-reduce-genetic-predisposition-to-obesity-by-40-percent.html

Here's the actual journal article for those interested............

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20824172

Sorry to get on my soapbox but, I just don't want people using "genetics" or a "gland problem" as an excuse as to why people are obese. We need to start getting back to a time when we had physical education in schools, and people ate more often at home (as opposed to fast food three times/week), and did some kind of daily physical activity (even if it was a manual labor job). Hoping for a drug to solve that problem is part of what's wrong with Americans and their health today........................ESPECIALLY Black folks.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: 90Aggie on April 08, 2011, 12:30:33 PM
I'm not as mean as I look.  >:(   ---------->    ;D
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: aggiegrad2009 on April 08, 2011, 03:41:44 PM
Same as 90Aggie I'm not nearly as mean as I look at times...........

I'm one that doesn't deal with or tolerate foolishness because I don't have to so I stay away from it and keep it away from me.....

Although some think I'm mean I'm as nice a person as anyone could meet and would give an individual the shirt off my back if they need it......

I'm very big on education especially within our communities. I try to push and encourage each and everyone to get as much as possible while you are able and often times tell them that regardless of cost to look at it as an investment for a better future.

I'm very big on common courtesy and respect and HATE to see people disrespected. I have a soft spot and can get real "colored" when I see people mistreated especially those that are a little less fortunate than us.

I will admit I have a quick temper but that is from my lack of patience which I'm working on. I'm just a person that likes to nip things before they really get started......
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Bearforlife on April 08, 2011, 03:45:29 PM
What most don't know about me....I have always wanted to be a JET Beauty of the week :tiptoe:
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: y04185 on April 08, 2011, 03:47:20 PM
What most don't know about me....I have always wanted to be a JET Beauty of the week :tiptoe:

You can be the Onnidan Beauty of the Week.  The next available week is in 2023.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Capler on April 08, 2011, 03:57:44 PM
The Walmart bathroom story is an April Fool's joke.

Maryland Man Superglued to Walmart Toilet

Published April 07, 2011

| FoxNews.com

 

Maryland police say a man became stuck to a Walmart store toilet seat after someone spread glue on it.

It happened Thursday evening at a store in Elkton. Officials refused to say how long the man was stuck before he was able to get help.

Police say emergency workers removed the seat from the toilet and took the man out with seat still attached to him. The seat was removed at the emergency room at Union Hospital.

Police say the incident is a second-degree assault case that may have been a random prank the night before April Fool's Day.

The Associated Press contributed to this report

Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/us/2011/04/07/maryland-man-superglued-walmart-toilet/#ixzz1IxnA9XB3
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: 90Aggie on April 08, 2011, 03:59:21 PM
Although some think I'm mean I'm as nice a person as anyone could meet

I think I'm very nice, once you engage me or get to know me.  

I'm very big on common courtesy and respect

That's me.  I'm the first one to say "thank you" for holding the door open for me or for whatever nice thing a person does for me.  I'm the one who still says, "Yes, ma'am" and "No, sir" to my elders.  

I will admit I have a quick temper

I'm developing road rage these days, so I've got to work on that.   :(
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Capler on April 08, 2011, 04:02:06 PM
What most don't know about me....I have always wanted to be a JET Beauty of the week :tiptoe:

Now that is what you call aiming for the top of the tree instead of the moon.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: ‘87 Alum on April 08, 2011, 04:02:18 PM
How long was this dude on the crapper?  And didn't he feel the gel and/or moisture? This is why I flat out refuse to drop a deuce in a public restroom. There ain't enough toilet paper in them stalls to line that seat. I can hold it until I get home!
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: RamMan4Life on April 08, 2011, 04:09:10 PM
I am an avid gardener and have a soft spot in my heart.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Jay_Thomas on April 08, 2011, 04:10:53 PM
I'm not as mean as I look.  >:(   ---------->    ;D


I AM MEANER than I LOOK.  :(  :o  =================>   >:(

They mistake my nice guy-next-door-look to think I'm easy.
Then when my Inner Ike breaks loose, folks looking crazy wondering what in the heyal happened.

Hey, you ask for it, you just might get it. I try to warn them.  :lol:
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: DRUMMA1 on April 08, 2011, 04:15:00 PM
Most Folks Don't Know:

...I've been through a lot in the last few years.

...I love Italian food.

...I see spirits.

...all of my dreams (while I'm sleeping) eventually come to pass.

...the mere sight of olives make me gag.

...I'm mischievous.

...I love volunteer work.

...I love kids.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Capler on April 08, 2011, 04:22:54 PM
I use to be really particular about stuff until I became more responsible.  Bacteria is bacteria and it is all over the place. The bathroom is the least of your worries. Urine is fairly sterile until bacteria in the environment gets in it. In most cases we all have the same bacteria in our digestive tracks. The biggest problem people use to have was with parasites: round worms, tape worms and other creepy crawlers. Trust me, I'd rather come in contact with  E coli than the flu.  You can't avoid germs unless you spend your life inside a bubble.  Growing up my parents had me so afraid of feces, decay, mold, and dirt. From a science point of view, they were over reacting. Follow a baby around for awhile and see what they put in their mouths.  
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Capler on April 08, 2011, 04:25:41 PM
Most Folks Don't Know:



...I see spirits.


Oh my God, you see dead people?  :o Excuse me but I have somewhere to be..... :tiptoe:
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: 90Aggie on April 08, 2011, 04:27:14 PM
...I love kids.

I do too...as long as they aren't mine.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: DRUMMA1 on April 08, 2011, 04:29:56 PM
Most Folks Don't Know:



...I see spirits.


Oh my God, you see dead people?  :o Excuse me but I have somewhere to be..... :tiptoe:

A lot of people see spirits.  I've been seeing them since I was little.  I remember my mom telling me when I was 4 I told her I saw a man dressed in all black with red eyes.  It doesn't scare me, though.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: DRUMMA1 on April 08, 2011, 04:31:05 PM
...I love kids.

I do too...as long as they aren't mine.

:lol:  Other people's kids act like they've got some sense around me.  Its when I give them back to their parents when they cut up.
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: Jay_Thomas on April 08, 2011, 04:33:00 PM
A lot of people see spirits.  I've been seeing them since I was little.  I remember my mom telling me when I was 4 I told her I saw a man dressed in all black with red eyes.  It doesn't scare me, though.

They don't scare me either. Its the LIVING that will do you in and quick, too.  :o
Title: Re: Something most folk don't know about you.
Post by: DRUMMA1 on April 08, 2011, 04:36:45 PM
A lot of people see spirits.  I've been seeing them since I was little.  I remember my mom telling me when I was 4 I told her I saw a man dressed in all black with red eyes.  It doesn't scare me, though.

They don't scare me either. Its the LIVING that will do you in and quick, too.  :o

Yes, indeed.  Thank God for favor and mercy.